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Spring Planting

Do any of you garden? This spring I am planting my garden and I have already started some seeds. I get my bean and tomato seeds from a neat place that has non GMO heirloom seeds from the Appalachia regions. They are truly great producers of veggies and taste so much better than those modified seeds do. The place I get the from is in Kentucky. It is called http://www.heirlooms.org. I highly recommend their seeds and they show you also how to save your own seeds year after year. The mans name is Bill Best and he will talk to you and help you  in any way he can to preserve the seeds that are nutrient rich and much tastier than anything on the market.

If you garden how do you preserve your foods? I dehydrate and pressure can plus I do freeze a little. I would much rather have my food shelf stable in case of electricity going out. I find pleasure in growing the garden and preserving it so we have good foods that I grew and we can have them in winter. I love the whole process. It makes me feel good. Plus, I love to cook so it really is enjoyable. I know what is in the food, any additives, and it is much healthier than buying the food at the store.

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Summer is Here!

I am thinking that summer may actually be here again! We have had some starts and stops but I think it has settled in for the season. I love summer! I wish it loved me.

As a lupus patient, I need to limit my sun time because it can cause my flare to go major!!! Not a fun way to spend summer. Actually, this year, summer will be shortened because in July or August I am having major surgery on my GI tract. I am not sure when but it is coming and looming in my mind too. I am doing what I call “marinating” about it. I am trying not to think about it. You know, the Scarlett O’Hara syndrome. It keeps me sane to do it this way.

In the meantime, I finally got to go to a meeting last Sunday instead of listening on the phone. It was so nice to see everyone and shake hands and fell their presence. It lifted me up spiritually as well. Various ones stop by and visit me but it was nice to be seated and listening to the discourse with my brothers and sisters around me. It really is good medicine.

So far though, allergies are really bad! I hear from others that it is the same way for them too. Even though I do not get out much, they are still plaguing me. Is it me or does it seem to get worse every year?

Otherwise, I am hoping to post more because I have learned to use my smart phone app and post from it now. Makes it easy to post. I was intimidated by it but not anymore.

I sincerely hope you are all well and enjoying your summer. I am going to give it a great try!

Never Apologize For Being Honest – Those Who Are Dishonest Should Apologize

from a friends blog… thought you might like this~Jen

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In life we will encounter all kinds of people, and we will encounter honest people, dishonest people, and so much more. Now ladies and gentlemen, there is something that you should never do for being honest is to apologize for it. I know sometimes there will come a time where you say, sorry, May I be honest with you? Never be sorry, but say May I be honest with you? There is a big difference. It is always great to tell the truth and be honest with others because sooner or later that truth will always come out and there is no hiding lies because things always have a way of coming out. So just save the trouble and tell the truth. Nobody should have to apologize for being pure, real, and telling the truth right off the bat, rather than hiding it. Not saying anything and hiding something can…

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Oh to Remember Better Days

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via Oh to Remember Better Days.

This says it all don’t you think?

Marriage and Hidden Hostility

I found this on the webpage http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201302/is-hidden-hostility-derailing-your-marriage. I am learning more about  this and thought I would share it.
3 Strategies for Improving Communication with your Passive Aggressive Spouse
Published on February 18, 2013 by Signe Whitson, L.S.W. in Passive Aggressive Diaries

You sense that your husband is harboring feelings of anger at you, but you don’t know what is motivating his hostility. You’ve tried asking him if he is angry, but his standard response is to deny such feelings, then continue to withdraw and sulk.

You know the routine, because you’ve been down this road countless times before. Though uncomfortable with expressing his angry feelings directly, your spouse persistently lets you know about his resentments through passive aggressive means. How can you disengage from this destructive dynamic of unspoken anger and covert hostility? Here are three tips to improve communication with your passive aggressive spouse:

1. Affirm the Anger

Some people spend their lives guarding against any acknowledgement of their anger. One of the most powerful ways to improve communication in a relationship is to be willing to point out anger directly, when it is present in a situation. Anger should be called on by name in factual, non-judgmental statements, such as, “It seems to me that the issue is that you are angry at me right now.” This simple direct approach can be profound.

2. Manage the Denial

Your goal is to openly acknowledge the anger that has been closed off and kept secret for too long. Expect that once this has been done, your spouse will deny his angry feelings. When he does, it is helpful to accept his defenses in the moment, with a response such as, “It was just a thought I wanted to share with you.

It is not necessary to argue with his denial at this time. Rather, back away from further discussion, leaving your spouse with the knowledge that you are aware of the anger that underlies his behavior. Now, your husband knows that his emotional mask has been lifted and the door has been opened for future discussion about his underlying anger.

3. Re-Visit the Thought

Confrontation of passive aggression is not a once-and-done cure for the behavior, but rather an approach whose best results come from repetition. When the dynamic is re-played (and it will be!), re-visit the thought with another affirming statement such as:

Remember when I mentioned I thought you were angry at me? Well, what just happened between us today seems similar to what happened last week. What do you think?

Again, it is not necessary to immediately argue the point, but rather it can be helpful to leave the passive aggressive person to process this thought for the time being. His is coming to understand and accept that his hidden anger is no longer a secret and he will need to communicate with you in a more emotionally honest way—or face the discomfort of the same type of conversation again and again.

Passive aggressive communication patterns can be even more destructive to marriages and families in the long term than outright aggression.  The advantage of this approach is the comfort of not having to justify or defend your acknowledgement of the anger. By simply sharing your awareness of his covert anger, you have sent a bold and powerful message that the passive aggressive behavior cannot continue and the relationship needs to change.

Signe Whitson, LSW is the author of The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools, and Workplaces, 2nd ed.  For more information or workshop inquiries, please visitwww.signewhitson.com